Wedding planning can be mind-boggling. If you are planning for a second time, wedding planning takes on a whole new degree of difficulty. Here is a helpful list of wedding etiquette if you are planning a second trip down the aisle.
- Brides rest assured – you CAN wear white! That old belief that second-time brides need to stay away from white is a thing of the past. Many ‘encore’ brides choose dresses in hues of champagne and ivory. Just try to avoid a dress that closely resembles your first wedding dress.
- When announcing your new engagement, tell your children first. Give them time to adjust to the idea. Next, let your parents in on the joy. Then, if you have joint custody of young children, let your ex-spouse know. Finally, announce your engagement to the public.
- If you decide to go with a religious ceremony, meet with the officiant well in advance of your desired wedding date. Some religions require extra classes or steps for marrying after divorce.
- Go ahead and register for gifts. Many of your friends and family are going to want to mark this occasion with a gift – help them by registering for things you may want or need. Spread the word of your registries by word of mouth, not by inserting cards into the invitations.
- Celebrate! Don’t limit your reception because you’ve had one already. Enjoy your day! However, steer clear of trying to replicate your first reception.
Looking for more information? Check out these titles available in the Weddings Neighborhood:
Ex-Etiquette for Weddings: The Blended Families Guide to Tying the Knot by Jann Blackstone-Ford
Encore brides and couples with divorced parents will find helpful and suitable advice in this sophisticated, up-to-date wedding guide and etiquette primer. Jann Blackstone-Ford, a certified divorce and stepfamily mediator, and Sharyl Jupe, her husband’s first wife, know firsthand how to make a blended family wedding a joyous affair.
Bride Again by Beth Reed Ramirez
Not a book of checklists and worksheets, Bride Again offers tips and provides answers. Is it okay to wear white? Can my son give me away? And what am I going to tell my ex? Where can I find a gown I feel comfortable in? What would be appropriate?
1001 Ways to Have a Dazzling Second Weddingby Sharon Naylor
Provides current and applicable how-to’s on everything the second bride needs, including such subjects as: gown choice, family participation, guest diplomacy, invitation wording, reception planning, religious requirements, and legalities.
Getting Married When It’s Not Your First Time by Pamela Hill Nettleton
Any bride who’s headed back to the altar faces a paralyzing number of tricky situations ‘ as well as the challenge of making this second or third (or more!) wedding unique in its own right. This enormously helpful guide, written by an experienced “encore” bride, features a wealth of inspiring suggestions for handling delicate etiquette issues and navigating complex family ties.