I’ve never been a “kid” person. My sister loves kids, teaches kindergarten, and has a ball. More power to her. All I know is that gene passed me by. That doesn’t mean I dislike children, I’m just not someone who wants to be around them all the time. And, like many of the guys out there, I’ve never been one to ooh and aah when I see a baby around town. Most guys don’t get that gene either.
Because of this, I always wondered what it would be like to have a child of my own. I mean, I knew I would love my child, but would I feel the love everyone talks about when they talk about their own children? When my wife and I were putting together our nursery she handed me a sign to hang up on the wall that said, “A baby fills a place in your heart you never knew you had”. Like many guys, I’m sure; I read that with a bit of wonder, concern, and hope. Wonder that it could be true, concern that I maybe wouldn’t feel that way, and hope that I would feel that way and avoid being the only Dad who doesn’t love his child as much as everyone else.
Alas, I didn’t have to worry. From the moment the nurse handed my daughter to me, and her big, blue eyes met mine, she didn’t just fill a place in my heart I never knew I had. She filled my whole heart. So if any guys out there have any of the thoughts I did, don’t worry. You’ll love your child with a love deeper than anything you’ve ever felt. You might even eventually start to enjoy looking at other people’s babies in public.
Here are a couple of books for the soon to be Dad that can be found in our collection:
The Everything Father-To-Be Book: A Survival Guide For Men – by Kevin Nelson
Be Prepared: A Practical Handbook For New Dads – by Gary Greenberg & Jeannie Hayden