Not long ago, my wife and I went on our first date. Post baby, that is. I had been wanting to for quite some time. Don’t get me wrong, I love my daughter, but I missed being able to go out with my wife for a nice dinner and see a movie without having to wonder if the baby’s going to stay asleep, need a bottle, need a diaper change, need to be held, etc. My wife was a little more reluctant. And I’m sure there are guys out there who have experienced this with their wife as well, or will experience this in the future. She just wants to be home with our daughter, and can’t stand to be apart from her any more than is absolutely necessary. Sometimes going to the grocery store without the baby is more than she can handle.
But I finally convinced her to go out with me on a date.
So we dropped our baby off at the sitter’s house at a quarter to six, went to dinner, and took in a movie. As soon as the credits started rolling my wife looked at me and said, in all seriousness “I need to see my baby!” So we went to pick her up, and on the way my wife informed me that by 7:15 she was thinking that she had had enough of date night. She also informed me that it was nice to get out just the two of us for a little bit, and that she could definitely see doing this twice a year.
In all seriousness guys, enjoy the time you have with your wife after you are blessed with the arrival of your little one. She will probably want to spend every moment she can with your baby, but having even just a little bit of time together as a couple is important. And since those times won’t occur as easily, or as often as they once did, enjoy them when you get them.
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